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    The CutHeather Havrilesky6/19/1924 min
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    • Pegeen
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      3 years ago

      I believe that all relationships are opportunities for us to learn more about ourselves. All the qualities that I feel make for a valuable friendship must first be within myself for there to be any resonance with another person. For me, it has never felt like a need to seek friends, more just doing what I love to do and discovering friendships along the way. I think when you are comfortable being alone, enjoy your own company, there’s an organic ease about yourself which is inviting to others. I’ve never been one to have a lot of friends, but the ones I have are deep and seem effortless. I feel for this woman and think the advice given very sound. Whenever I have been in conflict with another, my tendency has been to first look within myself, not to blame or project on to another. And then always to discuss my feelings with the other person.

    • joanne3 years ago

      I was a little judgmental about the woman asking for help. She seemed so incapable of the smallest social interaction without feeling bad. I loved the advice, empathetic and honest. I feel like my ability’s to be compassionate grew after reading this .

      • jeff
        Top reader this weekReading streakScoutScribe
        3 years ago

        I initially felt the same way about the woman writing in and had the same thoughts as the author with regard to using the phrase “friendship of origin.” I thought the advice given was thoughtful and direct and very entertaining to read.

      • bill
        Top reader of all time
        3 years ago

        Totally agree.