This article rang true for me. When my marriage was ending, I felt like the only one invested in saving it. We had children, so that made my efforts last longer. But I found myself like Sisyphus and then finally saw the futility of my efforts. Staying would have “killed” me, leaving gave me new life, new possibilities and a revitalized me.
This is how you avoid becoming a victim. You invest in yourself. You refuse to put your happiness at the mercy of another’s attention or approval. You give love and respect but expect both in return.
“Any relationship is under the control of the person who cares the least.”
“That this effort has been successful can be seen when one spouse has a greater investment in reconciliation and is much more upset at the prospect of ending the marriage. When I point out to people that much of the distress they are feeling is not shared by their partner and that this is the source of their feeling ‘out of control,’ they are usually quick to recognize their predicament. While it takes two people to create a relationship, it takes only one to end it.”
This was a great read. So many points stood out
This article rang true for me. When my marriage was ending, I felt like the only one invested in saving it. We had children, so that made my efforts last longer. But I found myself like Sisyphus and then finally saw the futility of my efforts. Staying would have “killed” me, leaving gave me new life, new possibilities and a revitalized me.
So thankful for this article.
“Any relationship is under the control of the person who cares the least.”
“That this effort has been successful can be seen when one spouse has a greater investment in reconciliation and is much more upset at the prospect of ending the marriage. When I point out to people that much of the distress they are feeling is not shared by their partner and that this is the source of their feeling ‘out of control,’ they are usually quick to recognize their predicament. While it takes two people to create a relationship, it takes only one to end it.”