Great night time read! I hope this AOTDs! Such a great combo of interesting and practical. “Pay close attention” is life advice that basically applies to absolutely everything.
I really learned this when I was raising and training an Arabian filly from 6 months old to maturity. If I weren’t paying attention, she could step on my foot, hit me in the face with her head, buck me off her back! It was crucial for my safety and developing a relationship with her that she got my undivided attention. I finally got the horse I always wanted at 58 years old and am riding into my 70’s!!! She has taught me the importance of attention—and intimacy with another species!
Wonderful! It’s all about attention!
Agreed, this is great. I made a promise to build community where I live in the last year and it has been hard but worth it. New people I’m building friendships with often remark how novel it is to be regularly invited to do things by someone, we’re clearly not flexing our friend making muscles enough. Defo AOTD material.
Sound advice. From my experience, knowing, understanding, accepting and loving yourself first is key to being a really good friend. Feeling secure in who you are allows for vulnerability which leads to authenticity.
Wasn't expecting much given the title but was pleasantly surprised by the depth and thoughtfulness of this article. Friendships can be tricky. I just started re-watching Seinfeld and had forgotten that the very first (non-pilot) episode was "Male Unbonding." The show did such a great job exploring the difficulties and intricacies of both same and different-sex friendships throughout its run.