This is certainly a slippery slope. However, I never feel it’s okay to force yourself on a woman (person) regardless of past interactions - no is no. I’m hopeful the industry will change but I know it will take a long time. Having more powerful women in the industry would help.
The Catholic Church, the entertainment business, the video gaming business, Olympic Gymnastics organization, Political arena, Boy Scouts of America - what’s next? I am THRILLED the walls are tumbling down. This is such a hideous, outrageous abuse of power. What is taken from the victims is incomprehensible to me. Money can not compensate but it could help pay for all the professionals one will need to find their way back to some sense of wholeness.
Gratitude is magic. I open my eyes in the morning - thank you. I get out of bed - thank you legs, feet, joints. I sit on the john, thank you bladder and kidneys - thank you for the convenience of a seat in my home! I wash my hands - thank you for running water. And on it goes all day long. Seeing always what is “working”, what is good, what is beautiful, what is the “lesson” hidden in the challenge - all of it fills me to overflowing with a deep sense that life is working for me not against me. It gives me perspective and deep appreciation for my life. Being grateful keeps me grateful and that helps me to want to give of myself to others. Because I have more than enough to give.
Unfortunately, there is a lot of truth here. What seemed to work for me was that each one of my boyfriends, and eventually, my husbands, were really good friends. I knew them for a long time and it evolved into a committed relationship. My first marriage lasted 20 years. It was exciting, unconventional and we had 2 very creative kids. We parted friends. My second marriage is 18 years strong. It’s exciting in a completely different way because we don’t have kids, other than my own who are now old enough to be our friends. We are both retired and enjoy many artistic pursuits, some traveling, great friends and family. I also think that you must first feel really good about yourself, strong and secure in who you are, not searching for someone to “save” or “complete” you in any way. Having an “agenda” will never make for any kind of worthwhile relationship. Deeply love, respect and accept yourself, and that vibration will certainly draw to you a like partner.
This is a great article and resource. I first heard about the slow news movement from an article on Readup almost a year ago. It makes so much sense, as anything fast can trigger and send one off in reactive mode instead of proactive. Slow is better - mindful presence in everything I do whether it’s eating, exercising, reading, making dinner.
I first came to Cage’s 4’33” from an article on Readup, posted by Alexa, called A Dangerous and Evil Piano Piece, which was written by Satie. In Alexa’s response to my comment, she mentioned Cage’s piece, which sent me to Google and to my experience with 4’33”. I was in my kitchen cooking and the washer and dryer were making all kinds of noise. Frustrated, thinking they were drowning out the performance, I carried my iPad into another room away from the distractions. And what a delightful surprise! I happen to be of the camp that thinks it’s art - an original idea never before imagined. This past year I happened to see a NY art opening on the news that had a banana skin attached to a wall as a piece of art! So it’s a very subjective field and so much fun to explore. Thanks Alexa!
FABULOUS! A must read in my opinion. Wise and wonderful. You can not solve a problem with the same mind that created it. It’s time to drop down into our hearts. Love is the only answer, the only true solution.
EXCELLENT!!! I completely agree with this article - enough about digital detox! To finally have positive options in the tech field is a much more powerful way to make a meaningful shift in one’s habits. Readup has been such an important part of my husband’s and my life. Each morning we make coffee, grab our iPads and scroll the App to see what new world is going to open to us. It promotes intelligent conversations in a world that tends to parrot Fox News and all it’s toxic fearfulness.
Fantastic! What an eye opener. I’ll never look at a fast food business the same again. Once, out of desperation while in high school, I applied to Wendy’s for summer employment. When they pulled out the uniform I had to wear, very similar to Wendy herself, I withdrew my application! The Chick-fil-A down here in Wellington, Florida is always packed, with long lines of cars wrapped around the building like coils. We thought it was a fluke until we realized it’s always that insane. I would think getting good employees at such establishments a complete and utter nightmare. I mean we are usually talking about teenagers. If I owned a place, I’d hire as many retirees as applied. They seem more appreciative of the job and respectful of rules of employment. They may move slower but at least they show up and are not on their phones.
I SO enjoyed this article! It sent me to Google, reading more about Satie’s life, listening to several of his piano pieces, including a selection from Vexations. This would be such a test of endurance for both pianist and audience. LOVE an eccentric!
I agree with Meurig Bowen - Satie’s life deserves the big screen. I love anyone who enjoys tearing up the rule book. Paris in the 20’s was such a hot bed for innovation and the avant- garde. That would be my time travel destination, for sure. I’ve seen Woody Allen’s Midnight In Paris 3 times.
A MUST read! What an inspirational story. Truly amazing - epic. I am so impressed with every person in this article - each an integral part of piecing together a young man blown apart saving another. VERY humbling.
I love sun rise, sun set and all manner in between but give me the evening with a full moon and I’m in deep awe. The evening sky is magical, mysterious, sensuous. It’s really the only time I enjoy being on a boat. The peace and quiet is delectable.
I am a person who very easily engages with strangers. Connection adds much to the quality of my life. Because it’s so important to me, I used to judge others who chose not to be receptive as having something “wrong” with them. It’s even embarrassing to admit that now because it’s a form of thinking that my way is the “right” way, which is ridiculous and narrow minded. Diversity is what makes life so interesting and challenging - to allow everyone to be their own unique expression.
I LOVE this article - so interesting! Some of the terminology is as fabulous as the graphics shown. My favorite is the “interrobang”, one I don’t use often, so you know I’m really perplexed if I do. I agree with the last paragraph and the trouble with a “full stop”. It would be cool to invent a new punctuation mark for this awkward situation. How about it Readup community, any takers?!
Wow, I admit I’m beyond fascinated with the entire Ted Bundy story. And will watch the docuseries, for sure. I was in my early 20’s when this case first appeared in the news and followed the horrifying unfolding. I can’t even begin to wrap my head around being this serial killer’s girlfriend and how utterly painful her journey must have been. Is it possible that therapy could ever help one recover from such an unbelievable mind f***! She mentions prayer and it would have to be something akin to a miracle. Elizabeth Kendall is very brave to revisit this devastating period of her life.
A MUST read! This is gut wrenching, horrifying! I am blown away. This can not remain a secret. I appreciate Readup for its incredible articles that continue to awaken me. I truly pray this is the beginning of the takedown of the Amish patriarchy. Brutal!
I was really surprised to read here that Generation Z scored the highest on the loneliness scale. But it does make sense because the article also points out that social media was tied to loneliness. Boomers, my generation, were the least lonely but that’s probably because we are much more social, not having grown up with technology. I was frustrated by the lack of examples of how the workplace contributes to loneliness and how best to address that. There is no doubt in my mind that in-person connections are essential. It’s wonderful that we can connect on face time/Skype/Zoom with people who live far away but there is nothing like the feel of a real hug - or looking into someone’s eyes.
Essential information. It seems impossible for me to believe that anyone would ever think that cigarettes, with all the chemicals added to the tobacco, would not be harmful. Anyone can feel the burning sensation and if smoked for some period of time, the affects, such as shortness of breath, sore throat, a cough. I feel the same with technology. It’s obviously addicting - just look around. Everyone is looking at their screens. And most technology companies employ psychologists to provide information on how to make the devices even more addictive. There have been several articles on this platform that have mentioned addiction specialists and clinics that deal specifically with technology addiction. I predict it will become a booming business in the future - unfortunately.
I have an inner rhythm that has always dictated my life - like a governor on a boat motor. Therefore, I organically allow plenty of time for each activity so rushing is unnecessary. I rarely feel exhausted at the end of the day. More contented. It’s essential for me to “Smell the Roses.”
Really poorly written article - confusing! No cohesive explanation of the research. Thankfully, I don’t need the research to know our cats are VERY attached to us. Interestingly, the female more so to my husband, the male insanely to me. He’s a large Tabby and follows me everywhere like a dog - even sits on my lap while meditating. We are ardent animal lovers and I’m suspect of those who aren’t.