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    The AtlanticArthur C. Brooks2/11/216 min
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    The Atlantic
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    • Pegeen
      ScoutScribe
      2 months ago

      Wow, I have to say, this was a surprisingly good article. I also happen to agree with it. I’ve always taken it slow with men, getting to know them first, becoming friends. And I love the restraint involved when the feelings begin to shift and it’s obvious that there’s so much more to be discovered and enjoyed. Delayed gratification is hot!

      • DellwoodBarker
        Top reader this weekReading streakScoutScribe
        2 months ago

        ✨I give this comment 5 Stars✨

        • Pegeen
          ScoutScribe
          2 months ago

          Hilarious!

      • Jessica
        Top reader this weekReading streakScoutScribe
        2 months ago

        “Delayed gratification is hot” yes!!! Agree!!

        • Pegeen
          ScoutScribe
          2 months ago

          Awesome!

    • Plum2 months ago

      I loved this article but liked the comments even more.

    • jayvidya2 months ago

      “the secret to happiness isn’t falling in love; it’s staying in love.”

    • EZ19692 months ago

      I love this article. It rings sweet and true.

      • Karenz2 months ago

        That’s because your parents, married over 50 years and surviving one breakup, have been best friends since the 4th grade!!!

    • sjwoo2 months ago

      Goddamn, that's Nietzsche's quote? I guess it makes sense. It's romantically utilitarian.

    • Florian2 months ago

      falling in love is the start-up cost for happiness—an exhilarating but stressful stage we have to endure to get to the relationships that actually fulfill us.

      This is clever and made me think of you, @Bill :)

    • kellyalysia
      Scout
      2 months ago

      I’ve always held judgment over the term companionate love (sounds sexless and like a life of convenience, two people afraid to challenge each other or grow outside of their comfort zone) but this casts it in a different light.

    • TripleG
      Reading streak
      2 months ago

      I love that last line:and then hers, I pray, will be the face I see as I draw my last breath—her image one substance with my soul.

    • DellwoodBarker
      Top reader this weekReading streakScoutScribe
      2 months ago

      Beautiful Read.

      Having just woke up about an hour ago from a dream of a kind of Marshall law in urban setting and civilians throwing bombs in underground concrete bunkers. Odd. The explosion woke me...

      This is a Wonderful Read to ease back under the covers after having read.

      But these habits pale in comparison with one big one: The most important predictors of late-life happiness are stable relationships—and, especially, a long romantic partnership. The healthiest participants at age 80 tend to have been most satisfied in their relationships at age 50.

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