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    Mark Manson | 7/4/14 | 10 min
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    • normanbae
      2 weeks ago

      Went in expecting a bunch of self-help shlock but came out reflecting on my past and current relationships. Viewed through this new lens, I'm understanding what went right and what went wrong.

      "When we believe that “all we need is love,” then like Lennon, we’re more likely to ignore fundamental values such as respect, humility and commitment towards the people we care about. After all, if love solves everything, then why bother with all the other stuff — all of the hard stuff?

      But if, like Reznor, we believe that “love is not enough,” then we understand that healthy relationships require more than pure emotion or lofty passions. We understand that there are things more important in our lives and our relationships than simply being in love. And the success of our relationships hinges on these deeper and more important values."

    • chrissetiana
      Top reader this week
      1 month ago

      And because we idealize love, we overestimate it.

    • jamie1 month ago

      All you need is love. Reset! How about, love is still kinda good?

    • joanne1 month ago

      Love this ❤️