Ha! Foreplay rules! It’s the “wanting,” the tension of not having, the delay of any gratification, that’s hot - in my humble opinion. The slow build up, the nuanced gestures, really creative dialogue - all of it matters. Being present, in the moment, attending to each other. I remember a male friend complaining that his wife was frigid and she, when alone with me, confessing that her husband was a terrible lover and “taking matters into her own hands.” It’s an art, for sure. And foreplay should be an everyday way of living, not just prior to the “main event.”
Just realizing that I really enjoy reading about television which is kinda weird.