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  1. Lisa Richardson Bylines4/21/205 min
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    • deephdave
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      3 years ago

      Sometimes we try not to feel what we’re feeling because we have this image of a ‘gang of feelings’ that will overrun me. The truth is a feeling that moves through us. We feel it and it goes and then we go to the next feeling. There’s no gang out to get us. It’s absurd to think we shouldn’t feel grief right now. Let yourself feel the grief and keep going.”

    • chrissetiana
      Top reader this weekTop reader of all timeReading streak
      3 years ago

      "We don’t have to compare losses. The worst loss is always your loss."

      I like this part. Yes. We don't have to keep count and tally whose loss is worse. Same goes for every other feeling. They’re unique for all of us.

    • jbuchana3 years ago

      “We are all dealing with the collective loss of the world we knew,” said Kessler.

      As an essential worker who never left the house much other than work, restaurants, and occasional shopping, living in a very red virus-denying area, I have trouble understanding how the shutdown has shattered other people's lives.

      I'm trying, but it seems so alien to me. I do miss eating out about 3 times week, but that's just not the same thing as other people are feeling...

      • bill
        Top reader of all time
        3 years ago

        Yeah. I know lots of people like you with minimal changes or even better overall situations post-COVID.

        For other people, the work from home + couple/family stress is the problem. For me, it’s being single. Life feels unnecessarily boring, but the bigger problem is less free. I literally just can’t be where I want to be and with who I want to be with.

    • bill
      Top reader of all time
      3 years ago

      This is social media done right, from the author of the recent AOTD winner "How to Tell Your Husband You're a Witch". Perfect for locked-down people, with or without kids. The point is: Loss. It's all about getting good at losing, loss, and getting lost.

      "The art of losing isn’t hard to master." -Elizabeth Bishop

      Also (SPOILER) stories about crying are awesome. It's pretty much that simple. (Perfect writing prompt: Write about the last thing you cried about, and write about the crying.)

      For most of my life, I didn't cry, but around the time that I started getting off social media it began to happen more and more, and then it came roaring back for a while. These days, I don't cry as much, but I still believe that it's good to stay in the habit of doing it now and again, and I have certainly done it since quarantine, Jesus H Christ. Joking aside: If you're not into crying, I'd ask you: "Why not experience the full range of emotions? Yolo, amirite?"