I got more from the comments than the article. Thanks everyone The question of where fake positivity comes from is important. The same for false hope.
they left out the meat of the argument: where do we find fake positivity?? do we do it accidentally? where is it??
so that leaves only a very superficial analysis. anyone would agree "fake positivity" is not healthy. being honest with yourself is good. this is just obvious.
the only slightly deeper dive - that feeling non-happy is normal - is a good thing for those that need to hear it of course.
It doesn’t have to be one or the other - We can and should encourage people to look at the positives, to get away from toxic environments and people whilst learning from/through the pain of their experience.
The judgement that encouraging an optimistic outlook is ‘fake positivity’ is harsh.
Negative thinking linked to dementia in later life - https://edition.cnn.com/2020/06/07/health/negative-thinking-dementia-wellness/index.html?utm_source=twCNN&utm_content=2020-06-08T05%3A40%3A03&utm_term=link&utm_medium=social
Resisting the challenge of Transformation stunts us from our own knowledge of self. The advice of sitting quietly and feeling yourself is really a very easy process, however; resistance to change is our challenge. Love is quiet!
There is so much wisdom in this article! Definitely worth a read.
I also loved the quote: “ Feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear… are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back. They’re like messengers that tell us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck.”
Emotions as messengers - yes! I agree, they should never be suppressed. The journey to knowing oneself is both fascinating and humbling. And well worth the effort.
Really needed this today.