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    Fifty Two (52)Rega Jha7/16/2133 min
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    Fifty Two (52)
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    • thorgalle
      ScoutScribe
      3 months ago

      These services understand their market perfectly. According to a 2018 survey, [9] only five percent of India’s marriages are inter-religious or inter-caste. 93 percent of urban Indians marry a person of their parents’ choice. Only three percent of respondents were in “love marriages” and another 2 percent describe their marriages as “love-cum-arranged”—the term for when one happens to fall in love with a partner their parents chose before actually marrying them.

      If that is really the backdrop to relationships, it helps me understand the struggle of free dating in India. Without stories like these I (luckily!) find it hard to imagine such pervasive familial & societal control over relationships, as discussed in the article. Traditional gender roles, religion and caste all play a serious and often problematic part, it seems.

      It was also good to read the personal answers to the recurring questions: "Who are creeps? How to know?". I like Sona's approach of assuming good intentions & using voice messages to humanize a conversation.

    • Pegeen
      Reading streakScoutScribe
      3 months ago

      I loved this! Reading about India and the different caste systems within their culture was fascinating. Then reading about all the different dating Apps, what each one offers and the severe push back from the parents who fear all the changes. I can see/feel all sides but I am thrilled with the courage and determination of those that no longer wish to hold on to ideas that no longer fit them. “Women’s Agency” really stood out here and it’s so important globally. When I was a kid in the 70’s, my parents were really strict about staying within our religion and race as far as marriage. But there were many revolutions during that time that helped all of us to break through those barriers as well. We are making progress. And we should celebrate that even though there is more to let go of.

    • jeff
      Top reader this weekScoutScribe
      3 months ago

      A thoroughly interesting and enjoyable read! I found many of the cultural differences fascinating, yet there is also so much that is familiar; the reminiscing of the early 2000's pre-social internet in particular.

    • Ruchita_Ganurkar
      Scout
      3 months ago

      Nice writing on social culture. Who, How & When it'll be changed?