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    bookbear express | Ava | 3/15/21 | 6 min
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    • dukie43 weeks ago

      If you try to pretend you need nobody but yourself you’ll always be paranoid, untrusting, unwilling to let your guard down. Believe in a version of you that loves yourself, but also needs be loved by others. Then go out and find the love you deserve.

    • deephdave
      Top reader this weekReading streakScout
      1 month ago

      Psychological safety helps you establish a solid identity. When you’re around people who love you, you learn to see yourself through their eyes: as someone who’s worthy of time and attention, worthy of forgiveness, interesting and valuable. You believe that you deserve love. You’re more willing to take risks, because you’re not fixated on the judgment of your acquaintances: you have people who love and believe in you, and you know their opinion matters more. I know we live in a society that fetishizes individualism, but nobody exists in a vacuum. We are all the products of our environment. No one is unaffected by the people around them—if they think they’re impervious they’re probably not that self-aware.

      • Johanna4 weeks ago

        Today, If a relationship turns out not to be an equal spiritual exchange...I will quietly disappear. I am beyond grateful to belong to several groups that lift me up and I do the same for them. I believe individualism is incredible damaging in the long run...we need community:)

    • EZ19694 weeks ago

      Really enjoyed this one. Psychological safety is so necessary.

    • Jessica
      ScoutScribe
      1 month ago

      So much to think about.

      There are people who will make you feel like you’re only interesting or valuable to them if you have it together—if you’re fun and popular and successful in your work life all the time. And it’s awful because if you surround yourself with those people for long enough, you believe that’s all that’s worthwhile about you. You think you’re only lovable as long as you keep up the performance.

    • Florian
      Top reader this weekReading streak
      1 month ago

      Yeah wow, this got me thinking

    • DellwoodBarker
      Top reader this weekReading streakScoutScribe
      1 month ago

      Ava hits deep every damn time with insight.

    • chrissetiana
      Top reader this weekTop reader of all time
      1 month ago

      The gift of people’s love and warmth ❤️

    • Plum1 month ago

      Love this one!