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    The New York Times CompanyVictor Lodato2/24/179 min
    24 reads13 comments
    9.9
    The New York Times Company
    24 reads
    9.9
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    • sjwoo2 weeks ago

      Just a perfect story all around -- the subject matter, the style, the economy. Bravo!

    • shortstuff1063 weeks ago

      This is actually my second time reading this… it’s the kindest revisit I’ve had in awhile. Yay

      • thorgalle
        ScoutScribe
        3 weeks ago

        Great to hear 😊 welcome back!

    • bill
      Top reader of all timeScoutScribe
      3 weeks ago

      Wow. Merry Christmas (Eve) to all of us! What a gift! 10!

      I have had some deeply-romantic relationships with older people, and I have written about it all, but never published.

      This piece was very inspiring to me. I love to think about the couple reading this together (in print! In The Times!) and that must have been such a beautiful moment for both of them. For me (the younger one, the writer) the clock is ticking. When your lover/friend is on the verge of death, there is something so heavy about every moment. The unwritten essay, at any instant, can become the will-never-be-written essay.

      • thorgalle
        ScoutScribe
        3 weeks ago

        Merry Christmas! A gift indeed.

        • Pegeen
          Top reader this weekReading streakScoutScribe
          3 weeks ago

          Merry Christmas Thor and a happy, healthy New Year. So glad you are on Team Readup!

    • Pegeen
      Top reader this weekReading streakScoutScribe
      4 weeks ago

      Beyond a ten. This is perfection. Absolutely LOVE this! Even the illustration is adorable.

      • bill
        Top reader of all timeScoutScribe
        3 weeks ago

        GREAT scout! ❤️❤️

      • Karenz
        Scribe
        3 weeks ago

        I’ve had improbable friendships like this and they are the best. I love both these people.

    • Ruchita_Ganurkar4 weeks ago

      Some of the greatest romances of my life have been friendships. And these friendships have been, in many ways, more mysterious than erotic love: more subtle, less selfish, more attuned to kindness.

      • Jessica3 weeks ago

        This quote stood out to me, too. Incredible read. Loved this one.

    • TripleG
      Top reader this weekReading streakScout
      4 weeks ago

      A beautiful love story.

    • DellwoodBarker
      ScoutScribe
      4 weeks ago

      Marvelous and Exceptional micro-read that packs so much Essential into the moments invested in reading this jewel. Belongs in Best Ever reads.

      DB, Remember and Cherish this one inside the overflowing pulsing ripple of Emerald Green Heart energy for the next stretch ahead.

      💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚💚

      One night, Austin chatted about her life as a middle-aged wife in academia. “I completely missed out on the wildness of the ’60s,” she said.

      I told her I had missed out, too.

      “You weren’t born yet,” she said. “Or hardly.”

      Often we cooked together, as we had that first night, after which she would show me whatever painting she was working on. At her request, I also started reading to her from my book-in-progress. We gave each other feedback; our work improved.

      When my six-month lease was up, I renewed it. The novel wasn’t finished. Plus, I couldn’t imagine a better neighbor.

      Before I knew it, three years had passed. I was writing seven days a week and spending most evenings with Austin. Sometimes she had spells of vertigo now, and when we walked together she held my arm. Often she couldn’t find the right word for something. When she wanted to keep away visitors so she could paint, she hung a sign on her studio door: “Do not destroy.”

      Do Not Destroy reminds me of “Shhh…cookies are sleeping” in A Star Is Bored by Byron Lane when the Kathy Cannon character has baked cookies cooling.