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    The New York Times CompanyJESSICA BENNETT2/5/2122 min
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    • joanne3 months ago

      A deep and sincere Thank you to all the moms out there. These are devastating stories. I’m m sure there are thousands of mothers having similar experiences. When the goal is just getting through the day, it’s time to make some systematic changes in society.

      • bill
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        3 months ago

        it’s time to make some systematic changes in society.


        the detail that sticks with me is the one mom who on top of everything else is getting some kind of degree so that she can get a little bump in her pay. that's absolutely absurd. bureaucracy is the hidden enemy here. there's a better way to live. hearing about how many people are living zoom-based lives is so depressing to me. i know this is a crude comparison, but it reads like a form of prison. i feel like these moms are trapped. very dystopian.

        the costs of this lockdown are so extreme. it must end. we need to evolve to a new conversation about how we want to live.

        The poet Mary Oliver once asked: What will you do with your one wild and precious life? Let's start with that question and go from there. (I say: We all need to be more wild.)

    • Pegeen
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      3 months ago

      Mothers are so overworked and under appreciated. Now add a pandemic on top of it. My heart breaks for them - and the children. This situation is so unnatural, unhealthy and will need to be addressed because of all the trauma that is being absorbed into their bodies. This stress will take a long time to unwind, release and transmute. And it will take professional guidance to achieve.

    • chrissetiana
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      3 months ago

      ‘We can’t get sick, we can’t die and we can’t have the breakdowns that we need,’” she said. “I have to keep it together for everyone else.”

      ‘it’s so tiring to be needed all the time.’ You love your family, but sometimes, it just gets too much. And you gradually lose yourself in the process of being there for everyone, if you’re not careful.

      • bill
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        3 months ago

        So sad it's hard to read.

    • DellwoodBarker
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      3 months ago

      Reading VI: Perseverance put tears in my eyes. Dekeda’s response to her child’s devastation and Dekeda’s addition of the blue locker Are Stellar Examples of Love. For all their challenges that family really seems to know how to respond with Incredible Presence and Wisdom.

      To all the Mothers out there - Thank You!