I just had a long conversation with my friend about this a few days ago, the double standards of getting angry for men and women. I got into an argument with a man, and he screamed and yelled physical threats and kicked things but it was brought up later that I was the one "blowing things out of proportion", yet all I did was cry, didn't even raise my voice.
The author says she uses sadness as her I'm not angry, I'm... But I tend to use "frustrated". I'm going to try to change this behavior though, why not admit being angry?
Wow what a heart-breaking story. The way they initially handled the investigation is so frustrating!
Also I can’t believe they never addressed the unreliability of polygraphs! They aren’t even allowed as evidence anymore in most places.
Such a beautiful poem
After reading this snippet in the Photographer at the Ends of the Earth article, I had to read the whole thing.
"How can I dream except beyond this life?
Can I outleap the sea-
The edge of all the land, the final sea?"
Eye roll. This is unbelievable. Such a clear diversion tactic. Instead of worrying about how much pilots can bench press, shouldn't we should be worrying about why the system malfunctioned in the first place?
Also this - "regulators are concerned about whether female aviators—who typically have less upper-body strength than their male counterparts—may find it difficult to turn the crank in an emergency"
Or maybe we shouldn't be relying on the strength of a pilot to keep a plane from crashing. If that's the best we've got, maybe the plane shouldn't be in the air...
I listened to a podcast called Finding Cleo from the CBC where they discuss the horrors of the residential schools in the 60’s and 70’s. It was shocking and so hard to listen to. Great article, great podcast.
From the prosecutor - “It was a heavy decision,” Minger said. “It’s a tragedy, but at the end of the day, it’s charging a very young person with one of the most serious crimes we have. But I just think it needs to be done at this point, for finality.”
Unbelievable.. For finality? What does that even mean?
"“There are four different reasons why you want to work or do any activity: fun, meaning, ego, and reward,” he says. When ambition is motivated by a desire for fun or meaning, our performance and well-being increase. But when we’re primarily driven by ego and/or reward, our work suffers, and so do we."
I feel like some of these are so intertwined, it's hard to differentiate them. I've had some of these same thoughts though - am I losing my ambition? I feel less motivated than I did 10 years ago even though I'm doing work that I really love. What is going on?
Interesting, not sure I agree with the solution but the crazy amount of pressure on kids to perform and insane amount of hours required for high-paying jobs is a problem. I think about this a lot when I think about having kids. How will I shield them from this high-pressure competitive culture while also helping them to succeed?
Interesting read! I’ve had many of these thoughts myself when trying to rationalize why people have such dislike of vegans. I hope the sentiment will change as vegan food/veganism becomes more mainstream.