I am not sure I will ever "mother" in the traditional sense but I can say that as I edge closer and closer to the work that lights me up, I do feel like I have a "motherly" and healing role to play, and that is (and I hate to say it in such woo terms but here I go) really a manifestation of the divine feminine. When I write, when I create, when I birth new ideas into the world, I am also accessing that energy.
All of these externalities and accomplishments that we place on personal procreation and the pressure that is often placed when one does not feel that strong of a calling to do it, are just that — external. They are performative and therefore a big distraction. You don't have to physically birth or biologically produce a child to play the role of mother in society. There is no shortage of fellow humans to look after.
I recently started a job in which I'm making the highest hourly wage I've ever made in my life, and it's consequently compelled me to value my "me" / pleasure time so much more. When I go for my morning walk, it really does feel like it "costs" me that time, but I also feel like the ROI is directly in proportion because I'm so immersed in the activity and I so look forward to it. The dividends are directly in relation. So I definitely appreciate this take on looking at your time-value.
Also what a great AOTD for such a day for Readup!!
It’s incredibly fascinating
I feel like I’m just a decision or two ahead of the curve they’re talking about only bc i made such a leap pre pandemic and now I’m all ready to be rooted again, but i definitely relate to the broadly .
I get the sense that there’s a vibe of “let’s solve some shit that’s wrong with the way things are built” could be interesting with people doing all this soul searching
Even with a task or area of knowledge that might otherwise intrigue or delight you, if you don't study and work at it so much that it becomes mundane if not robotic or automatic (I think of writing for me, but also teaching yoga) you'll never produce the kind of product that appears effortless or as it were--magical!
I’m giving this a 10 just because I’ve been saying it since April when we understood v clearly how the virus was spread -and that hasn’t varied since - and yet, people to this day are outside masking. And this all feels so small and petty but I think it’s actually super important for the reasons the author states- it’s anti science, and it undermines the actual point of wearing a mask- which is and always has been about safety, not signaling your politics or some other value statement.
This was ... odd. I don’t understand the connection between trust in institutions and WFH vs working from the office. I kind of feel like maybe i understand where they were going with this but there’s a severe gap in tying the connection. I’m left to make assumptions that are based purely on my experience vs understanding where these sources were coming from.
This sadly doesn’t surprise me. It is maddening to contemplate how common this kind of behavior is though.
As a tangential one of the reasons I love freelancing and for that matter one of the plus sides of this pandemic I think is likely how much “work play” time and other pointlessness has diminished. For the knowledge sector at least- People can log on, do their job, and log off, without all the absurd company culture “happy hours” that are really just sexual harassment suits waiting to happen bc people are drunk and stupid, and the inane water cooler talk and various other time wasters. Respect and mutual collaboration is awesome but so much of that stuff is completely performative. A lot of my dearest friends are from jobs, but we didn’t forge a friendship at work, we developed a friendship in spite of it—outside of the office and in the many years following. I love not having to pretend friendships or fun with my coworkers/work contacts.
I was just having this conversation with a friend. My question was about how absurd it is the way people are being communicated to about the way in which being vaccinated from Covid prevents community spread (first: “we don’t know” - of course we knew; and now: “probably helps but still wear a mask in public” - and probably by summer “vaccines prevent community spread” which of course they knew all along). My friends argument was that is just the message right now “but that I see thru it” and that if the CDC told vaccinated people they can go ahead and stop wearing masks, that this would create a shitstorm where everyone stops wearing them bc “money see monkey do” - and my POV is that’s incredibly sad to work with the assumption that people are not more caring, cautious and aware. But when we feed people lies, awareness just translates to unfounded anxiety.
I love this so much. I have had one experience with Reiki, and it was very interesting! I felt turned on, like my pelvis was warm, super wild (sacral chakra attunement I would imagine).
I haven't had Reiki since, but I stayed in a house with a Reiki healer for a month, and realized through that experience that maybe there was some intuitive force that brought me /will bring me to the healer that I'm meant to have. Because after a month there it never occurred for me to ask her for a session, it just didn't at all connect for me at the time, and I think that's powerful too in a way.
I definitely connected to this, as a yoga teacher who just wrapped up a week leading people through intense practices like yoga nidra (and hearing people's experiences in the moment), tarot readings and Reiki. It's totally real, but it's not if you don't believe in it.
It always seems to me there is a tremendous and marked difference between those who graduated from college in 2006 through 2009 versus those who graduated even a year later. I graduated from college in 2010, and I truthfully (and have talked about this with peers) almost had no lived experience of the recession. I found a job right away, while at that stage those even a year or two in front of me were scrambling for other options (which left many with second degrees/additional debt). Sometimes I think the older millennials in this group need their own category all together....i really feel for them.
If you really wanna get mad, do a little research on the content of feeding tube “nutrition” in hospitals. Someone I know who works in the ICU once sent a picture of the ingredients label (in order):
Water, corn maltodextrin, high oleic safflower oil, milk protein concentrate, isomaltulose, sugar, canola oil (followed by a bunch of chemicals).
This is what hospitals are feeding directly into the guts of the sickest people on their last limbs. A sugar concoction.
"The anxious brain believes that if it scans the horizon – that if it checks enough – it can circumvent loss. But we know that there isn’t enough checking in the world to mitigate risk and to offer a 100% money-back guarantee of certainty."
I want to share this piece with every person I have seen online profusely over-explaining in great depth the measures that they took to safeguard themselves from coronavirus, including and up to never leaving the house for the last year including grocery delivery, only to still become sick with Covid-19.
It is my opinion that the obsessive need for safety has taxed people's immune system with the stress that it causes. Controversial opinion, but not without some basis in science given what we know about the stress-immune function link and what isolation does to our immunity.
Of course, this isn't at all what Sheryl is talking about here, but what it brings up in me when I read it. Anyhow, her writing is awesome, and I've dabbled in her courses which are also very good.