I hope he is successful. I once dated a compulsive liar. When I realized everything he told me was a lie it was the strangest thing. He called me years later when his father died. His father was a pilot and has been living a double life with 2 families who only found out about each other at his funeral. It runs in the family!
Very funny (as below) but many truths here. “I once watched in awe as my girlfriend, who’d been lying inert on the couch, hypnotized with dread of whatever she had to do next, roused herself by intoning, “One, two, three” — and on “three,” immediately got up and swung into action.”
So true and so interesting that we don’t know more ….. “You might think that in everyday life, the things you see and hear influence what you feel, but it’s mostly the other way around: What you feel alters your sight and hearing,” Barrett writes in “How Emotions Are Made.”
I believe our brains change as we get older but as a 69 yo woman I strongly disagree with the way the author characterizes the change below. We are programmed to care and without that I can’t imagine human culture or I don’t want to imagine it. It can’t be reduced to people pleasing its caring and to do so sacrificing and offering ourselves
Dr. Brizendine explains that as women age, there is a decrease in estrogen waves which changes the way the brain handles anger and disappointment. “The younger female brain diverts the impulse to stand up for ourselves and for the values that we hold,” she says. “We’re trying to impose that we’re supposed to be perfect and the people pleaser.”
Sorry for the repeats….something wrong with my wifi this morning
I think we need a charismatic, very intelligent philosopher with extraordinary communication skills who can explain ourselves to ourselves.
Amazing. The ordinary as awe inspiring and worth living for
- Plumcommented6 months ago
I’ve heard people talk about the precautionary principle but never got it fully. I got it from reading this.
- Plumcommented6 months ago
This is an amazing article. Trust is the first thing we as infants establish for our humanity and survival. We took it for granted and events destroyed it. How to regain real trust, not false trust? I don’t know.
“The Earth asks us to change as everything changes and evolves, like the flesh-tearing Allosaurus who became a warbler singing from the treetops when the time for flesh-tearing was over. For if we don’t change, we will, like all that does not change, perish…… We are a species who can change.”
“ Lifton emphasised that thought reform took place when human communication was controlled. “ This is a great read up find!!!!! I was struck by this statement in thinking about social media’s algorithms- the modern version of controlled communication as an explanation of trumps cult and qanon. Hannah Arendt is speaking to us now.
“The United States now seems poised to respond to future waves with a collective sigh and a shrug.” I hope we don’t do the same thing with climate change although it looks like our human ability to change and sacrifice for others overwhelms the common good
I depend on my sense of smell for happiness.
Couldn’t stop reading. It gave me a deeper understanding of how younger people are living out gender roles.
Would someone please send this to one of those 700 billionaires who refuse to pay taxes. Redeem yourself and pay for dental care for low income kids.
I would recommend to everyone of us!
I like his answer to the question of what to teach our kids. We need to know and teach how to avoid indifference
Children also need to be told why we exist in the first place: we are here to make the world better by a very small amount. Otherwise, we will be raising indifferent kids who will help perpetuate an indifferent society that doesn’t care about others. Good parenting can change this tide.
This scared me! There is so much in this article … “the show is, at its heart, about the bathetic nature of decline. “Decline not as a romantic, singular, aesthetically breathtaking act of destruction,” he said, but as a humiliating, slow-motion slide down a hill into a puddle of filth. “You don’t flee a burning Rome with your beautiful beloved in your arms, barely escaping a murderous horde of barbarians; you sit down for 18 hours a day, enjoy fewer things than you used to, and take on the worst qualities of your parents while you watch your kids take on the worst qualities of you.”
“our era of algorithmic feeds might herald the actual death of the collector, because the algorithm itself is the collector, curator, and arbiter of culture. Not only does that represent a loss of agency and control, it’s also a loss of feeling” So interesting and true.